8 Ways to Attract and Win the Heart of Latina Women

There will come a day in your relationship when your partner will say the words that can change your relationship completely:

“My family wants to meet you,”

or

“Are you okay with meeting my family?”

Cue the beads of sweat, the jitters, and the sleepless nights spent overthinking about it.

Meeting your partner’s parents, hopefully your future in-laws, for the first time and even subsequent times is generally nerve-wracking.

You will feel the need to impress them and make sure you appear like the best man — no, the best possible groom — for their child. All this without coming off as a pushover, which we all know is a major turn off for women and for people in general.

One wrong move will lead to a bad first impression, which will negatively affect their opinions about you and the relationship, and even perhaps how it will progress.

Especially when it comes to dating Latina women, who are known to have close-knit relationships with their families.

It won’t only be the parents you need to meet and impress but the whole line of relatives waiting to interrogate you. And their impressions and opinions about you are very important and will not fall on deaf ears due to the concept of familismo.

First, what is it all about?

Familismo is a cultural concept which highlights the importance of loyalty, dedication and intimacy within the family — even putting the family’s interests above one’s own.

To put it simply, Mexicans value their families A LOT. They consider their families’ interest and opinions in every decision and choice they make in life, no matter how big or small.

Now, the question is: How does this affect your relationship?

With a family this close, if the parents or even anyone from their relatives don’t like you, chances are your partner’s choice will easily be influenced by their opinions.

So, if you want to keep the relationship going, you better be ready to butter up her family and here’s a few ways how.

La Familia

In Mexican culture, the extended relatives — uncles, aunties, cousins — are considered an immediate family.

Remember your second cousin you almost forgot existed?

In Mexican culture, you’d still stay in touch, and in some cases, you might even live close or be under the same roof.

With this type of setting, it’s pretty easy to be, perhaps, bothered by the number of people present in the house, who will be showing their interest in getting to know you.

But you also need to realize that this is her family, and every single one of these individuals, she considers close to her. So, it will be best if you get comfortable with the crowd and how they are towards you.

Beso

Mexicans, especially the abuelas, kiss each other on the cheek upon greeting and to show their affection.

While this shouldn’t be required, and should depend on how comfortable and at ease you are with affection, it’s best to take note that for the first meeting, they are likely going in for that smooch on the cheek and expect you not to avoid it.

Remember, abuelas can be a little sensitive when it comes to showering people with their love.

Español

But “Lo siento, pero no hablo español”, and they also do not expect you to be fluent in the language.

Learning even a few words will make it much easier to impress anyone from another country, or even the least, attempting to speak it will show effort and will reflect how serious you are with pursuing their girl.

Who’s to say, maybe the simple ¿Cómo te va? (How are you?) will translate to an “I like you for our daughter.” The family will find it endearing how you’re learning and stepping out of your comfort zone to connect with them.

Pasatiempos?

Whether it’s about knowing her hermano is a Patriots fan or joining her tita in catching up with the latest episode of La Casa de las Flores, your partner’s family will really appreciate the effort to connect with them.

It doesn’t matter if you’re genuinely interested or if you’re only doing so to impress them, at least the effort to make a connection is there and it’s what counts.

Buen Provecho

Mexicans, la mamá especially, love cooking for others. It’s their way of showing affection, and they consider it rude if you don’t accept the food offered to you.

What she will cook is going to be very different from what you’re used to eating — the flavor, texture — it’s all going to be a whole new world.

And you don’t have to like them or enjoy them — people have different preferences — but Mexican mothers are very particular about knowing or seeing whether who she’s serving food to is satisfied with what they get to eat.

Ayudar a limpiar

Mexican moms like their homes so sparkling you can see your own reflection.

Kidding aside, even though you’re a guest, make sure you offer to help clean the place. Whether it’s as simple as helping set the table, or cleaning the dishes after the meal, she will greatly appreciate it.

La Intencion

Families want nothing but the best for each other. They need to make sure you have their daughter’s best interests at heart.

One thing about Mexicans or Latinas in general is that they tend to be very hypersexualized, and it’s easy for the family to doubt your intentions about going out with their girl.

Show them they are mistaken by being nothing but sweet and gentle to her. Prove them wrong by being…

sé tú mismo

Just be yourself — but your best, kindest, most gentlemanly self. And this is who she fell for, surely her family will too.

The special treatment for her family is just a little treat — a cherry on top. Just make sure you don’t only keep this up during the first meeting, but all throughout your relationship.

Remember, family will always be a priority for Latinas.

So treat her family like you would your own — given you have a healthy relationship with them. If she sees you getting close to her family, having fun with them and including yourself in conversations, she will totally appreciate it.